contd). the thighs. If you are finding it hard to orgasm from penetration, you can try position where your partner's pubic mound is rubbing directly against the exposed nub of the clitoris. However, I have been having sex a long time and have never had an orgasm from penetration. There is NOTHING wrong with asking a partner to rub your clitoris while you have penetrative sex, or doing it yourself! Also, this is exactly why foreplay was invented : oh and, oral sex is sex. It's in the name!